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Topic: intentional change for couples
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Intentional Change
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On a rock by the edge of a pond, three frogs bask in the sunshine. Longing for a refreshing dip, one decides to back-flip into the water. How many are left?

Perhaps you think two are sitting on their rock snapping at flies while their buddy takes a swim? The correct answer is three. Our frog decided to jump, but didn?t follow through on his decision. It?s the same with couples and with each of us personally. Over and over we decide to change but don?t follow through.

This final post in Dr. B?s Relationship Checkup is on intentional change, where change is a decision followed by an intentional action. If follow through is difficult for you, tape these words to your bathroom mirror:
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Change Is A Decision Followed By An Intentional Action.

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If you read and discussed the previous five steps, you have completed your relationship checkup. Along the way you may have noticed a few changes you intend to make as a couple. No doubt you found a few things you wish to change as well.
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If you like to think in terms of goals, write out the changes you intend to make and set some measurable goals. If you are an organized couple, you can even list activities to achieve each goal.

If the mention of goals sends you screaming from the room you can write out a ?Things We?ve Been Meaning to Change? List. Start with the items that are important and easy to do. Ignore the ones that are easy but not important?these are time wasters.

When you?ve completed all the easy and important items, take a look at the important but difficult items. You?ll want to break these into manageable chucks. Don?t even consider the difficult and not important. Only couples who have a need for failure work on these. A one month review can help fine tune your changes.

For those who need help with setting priorities and following through on changes, I wrote an entire chapter on intentional change. You?ll find it in Win at Love!: 5 Hidden Forces to Make It Happen

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Dr. B

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